Conscious relationships can be a very rewarding and ambitious goal to archieve. Whether with a romantic partner, friend, or family member, all relationships have qualities that make them unique. Some relationships can be fast-paced and exciting, while some are slow and steady.
Relationships are also dynamic; they change over time as the people in them grow and learn from their experiences together.
In this way, no two relationships are exactly alike; however, certain qualities tend to pop up in healthy relationships more often than not:
Emotional wholeness
In a conscious relationship, you and your partner are aware of each other’s emotions.
You know when to reach out for support and understanding when feeling down, and vice versa. You do this by communicating honestly about what’s going on for you emotionally.
One of the biggest challenges in relationships is learning how to resolve conflicts—and both people must learn how to communicate effectively during those times.
So if there is an argument, both parties can listen objectively while also making sure they’re heard—this can take some practice.
It’s also crucial that both parties are emotionally available to hear each other instead of shutting down because they feel attacked or invalidated by their partner’s words/actions.
Over time, it becomes easier for couples who have become comfortable with being open about their feelings because they’ve learned how important it is not only to create trust but also to increase intimacy between two people who love one another deeply enough that sharing everything becomes almost second nature (which hopefully leads us back full circle).
Honoring your partner’s journey
A conscious relationship means that you are willing to respect and honor your partner’s journey, their process, and most of all, their decisions.
You understand that you will likely have differing opinions from time to time, but that doesn’t mean you can’t find a way to make it work for both of you.
You respect their choices even when they aren’t what you would choose for yourself or how things were done in the past. Your partner’s priorities are just as important as yours—and sometimes more so.
Communication
Communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and it’s how you and your partner can indeed be connected, open, honest, and vulnerable with each other.
If you’re in a relationship lacking communication, it’s time to put in some effort.
Commit to communicating your needs and wants early on in the process of building up trust.
-This can range from something simple like asking for help when needed or sharing what makes you happy/unhappy with your partner.
Having this kind of dialogue will allow both people involved in the relationship to know exactly where they stand, allowing them to grow together as individuals.
Remember that listening also means being able to hear what’s being said without giving judgment or criticism.
Hence, if they disagree with what was said, just let it go because there’ll be plenty more opportunities for discussion throughout life together!
Non-judgment
Non-judgment: A quality of a conscious relationship
Being non-judgmental is a skill anyone can learn, and it’s essential to have a conscious relationship.
Staying back from your feelings, thoughts, and actions and looking at them objectively allows you to see things as they are—and not how you want them to be.
It’s easy for us all to fall into our trap of judging ourselves or others; this happens because we compare ourselves against our expectations of how we think things should be.
But when we don’t hold these expectations so tightly, we can better accept the reality around us without bias or prejudice, making life easier for everyone involved (including ourselves).
Responsibility and accountability
It’s important to understand that responsibility and accountability are not the same.
When you take responsibility for your actions, you acknowledge that they were yours, but you also recognize that other people may have contributed to them somehow.
You can choose to accept their contribution or not; that is irrelevant what you do with the information once it’s presented to you matters.
On the other hand, accountability means accepting full accountability for all aspects of any situation: feelings included (not just thoughts or actions).
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Accountability means being aware of how your behavior affects others—and then making sure they’re okay after they’ve been affected by it—regardless of whether or not they were involved in causing those effects themselves.
Trust
Trust is the foundation of every successful relationship. It’s a two-way street, and it takes time to build.
If your partner doesn’t trust you, they will not feel comfortable opening up to you or letting you in on their life.
They might not even want to be with you if they don’t feel they can count on your support when things get tough.
Trust is earned over time by working through challenges and learning how each other thinks and feels about specific topics (like money).
The more challenges you face together—and the better solution(s) you come up with—the more potent your trust will become.
And that’s what makes a strong base for any lasting relationship: trusting each other enough so that no matter what happens next, both parties know it’ll all be OK because their bond is strong enough for whatever life throws at them.
Autonomy and support.
A conscious relationship is one in which both partners are autonomous and supportive.
Autonomy is the ability to be self-reliant and to make your own decisions. Support is the ability to listen and give advice.
Autonomy and support are not mutually exclusive but complimentary—each partner can use them in different situations or ways.
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For example: When you’re upset about something that happened at work, your partner might say, “I’m sorry this happened;
let me know if there is anything I can do for you!” You feel like they hear what you need and understand how important it is for you to feel supported right now (autonomy).
Then when they ask how their offer was received by your boss (support) or whether they should call them on your behalf (license), they validate that they did hear correctly earlier.
-This allows them to express empathy without making assumptions about what would happen next based on their own experiences alone as someone who has never been in such a situation before.”
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Healing your wounds.
- Healing your wounds. -This is an essential step in developing a conscious relationship. We all have injuries that need to be healed and tend to bring these wounded patterns into our relationships.
If you don’t heal your wounds, they will hinder your ability to connect with others on a deeper level and create more problems for yourself in the future.
- Learning from past mistakes. You must learn from past mistakes, so you don’t make them again in the future;
otherwise, whatever happened last time will likely happen again because you didn’t learn anything from it.
Some people even go back into relationships where they were treated poorly just because they want something familiar–and that’s not healthy.
- Forgiving yourself and others for their mistakes (even if they don’t apologize). Sometimes we hold onto anger or resentment toward someone who hurt us years ago because we haven’t forgiven them–or ourselves.
-This can cause stress and resentment within ourselves, leading us down an unhealthy path when trying to find love later on.
These are qualities that all relationships should have
- Respect: You should be able to respect your partner and their opinions. You should also be willing to listen to them when they talk about something important, even if you disagree with what they’re saying.
- Honesty: To have an honest relationship, both people need to tell the truth about things that matter in the relationship.
If something is wrong, it needs to be said to get fixed or improved upon.
It’s also essential for both people not to lie about things just because they don’t want their partner mad at them or think less of them (such as when someone lies about their salary).
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Conclusion
We can think of many other qualities that make for a conscious relationship, but these eight are a good place to start.
If you’re struggling in your relationship and want to make it more conscious, try looking at these qualities.
You might find that they help you identify what needs to change in your current situation and how to make those changes.
If nothing else, they will give you something constructive to work towards improving your relationship.
Hey there! Really good article.
Insightful post